How Women Over 40 Can Add Edge and Interest to Outfits without Spending a Penny!

What if I told you that the key to unlocking your personal style after 40 probably wasn't as complicated as you believe? That sometimes it's the result of one experiment that becomes your style North Star.

Or that the remedy to your boring, flat outfits isn't buying an entire new wardrobe, but in fact something that won't cost you a penny.

If your ears pricked up like a dog’s when its owner’s key is slid into the lock, then keep reading.

This blog is going to show you how both of these are true.

The Notting Hill Experiment

Let me take you back to when I started working in a vintage shop in Notting Hill. After a long hiatus and a lot of meh outfits, I was experimenting with my style again, which felt a mix of uncomfortable (it had been a minute since I’d worn things that might make me stand out) and oh so very right!

In my experiments, I was going all in on one aesthetic at a time. When I went for my interview, I wore a full 70s outfit, head to toe.

When I started working in the shop, most of my outfits were very Western-leaning. Boots, denim, cowgal hats, belts, tassel shirts… the whole shabang, the only thing that was missing was my horse and saloon!

Every piece lived neatly in the same container, because matchy seemed like the logical thing to do. At first, it was fun. But after a while, something started to feel off. After much thought (and ok, journaling!) I realised the outfits felt too themed — a bit like fancy dress.

I know some people love leaning into that, but it didn’t feel aligned for me.

Replica Dressing

I was also doing what I call replica dressing, aka trying to wear the shop owner’s style because I liked it, and her energy was cool. I thought if I dressed like her, I’d feel the same way.

Which is something I think many of us do when we’re starting our style exploration, and there’s nothing wrong with it as a way to discover what you like and don’t like.

But ultimately, the personal in personal style isn’t a null word; it’s the whole point.

To feel fully aligned and have a full body F*ck Yeah feeling from your outfits, you have to figure out what your personal version is.

The Baseball Cap Moment

Anyhoo, I would describe the shop owner’s style as relaxed, 70s California, boho western. But something I hadn’t initially noticed was that she would often throw in punk earrings, a modern shoe, or just something that disrupted the theme a bit. She also had really cool tattoos, so she already had something on her body that contrasted with the style of her clothes.

So one day, I put on a baseball cap with an outfit that it really didn’t make sense with, and something clicked. I felt different in the outfit, in a good way. And here's why.

It had added contrast to the aesthetic theme, which created outfit tension, and the tension is what gives an outfit edge. Something my outfits had been missing,

Would I wear that exact outfit today? No, because my style has evolved. But am I still applying the principle of pairing things that “shouldn’t” work together to create edge and tension? Absolutely.

In fact, it’s a foundational F*ck Yeah marker in my personal style. Without it, outfits feel off.

Juxtaposition Dressing: Your New North Star

And to bring this back to my original point, this is proof that sometimes the result of one experiment becomes your style North Star. That baseball cap was my gateway drug into juxtaposition dressing.

Juxtaposition dressing: the practice of putting pieces together that don’t quite “match”, but make the outfit far more interesting and create aesthetic tension, which = edge.

The Free Fix for Flat Outfits

And if you’re thinking, ok, but what about the remedy that won’t cost a penny?

It’s the same principle: experiment with putting pieces together that don’t quite “match” to make an outfit more interesting and add some edge.

And you, dear reader, can do that right now, for free. Go to your wardrobe, put on a base outfit, then pair it with things you wouldn’t normally reach for. And do it like no one is watching, because they aren't! No one can see you, so don’t hold back, and you might be surprised at what works. ( I wrote about this temix method here)

Outfit Autopsies

Here are a few real outfits broken down so you can see exactly how aesthetic contrast creates tension and tension creates edge.

Final thoughts

If your outfits feel like they're missing the edge you want, here's your homework: go to your wardrobe and start experimenting with putting things together that feel slightly wrong, and see what happens.

Because the truth is, you probably don't need to buy more to get the results you want. You just need to find your baseball cap moment!

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